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Fake It Until You Make It

25 Apr

“Time goes by so slowly for those who wait
No time to hesitate
Those who run seem to have all the fun
I’m caught up
I don’t know what to do”

  1. Who doesn’t love Madonna?
  2. I found a font called “crazy girl blonde.” I didn’t know I had my own font!
  3. Tangent. Anyways. I realized I’m at 6 months of blogging. Longer than any relationships I’ve been in for the past 5 years. Eh. I love myself and that’s what matters right? Well, whether you think I’m a narcissist or not is up to you (did I mention I’m a Leo?); but I think it’s important to take a second to appreciate reaching milestones.

So here goes. In the last six months of blogging I have:

  • Written almost 70 posts about skin care, beauty, and health.
  • Reached 10,000 people with what I have to say (or at the very least looking at my pictures).
    • Which on a sub-bullet leads me to the fact that I’ve learned how to make my pictures pretty fancy and interesting looking. Case in point. Above I put my picture into “perspective.” It makes me look so thin. And black and white – always classy. J
  • Connected with readers in 95 different countries. (I am SO impressed by this! Wow!).
  • Sparked several Facebook controversies over things I’ve done in order to have something interesting to write about. Mainly… things I’ve done to my face.
  • Basically saved the world. Oh wait… that’s my one year goal of the blog. Ha.

It really is a lot of work to write a post. Some take me over four hours (between researching what I’m writing and taking pictures—always trying to be interesting and original—and most important—trying to convey my voice and personality through written text). So I’d like to take the time here to thank all my readers and everyone who has given suggestions (positive and negative!). So thanks everyone! I think if this was an award show I’d be cut off now.

I guess when you stop to actually think about the things you’ve achieved be they work goals, life goals, or even aesthetic goals, you can actually be surprised by how much you’ve accomplished. I know personally I spend so much time trying to complete the next step that I get frustrated with things not moving as fast as I want them to, and it can be really discouraging. My lawyer, Richard, reminded me how far I’ve come in business over the past two years, and I hadn’t really taken the time to think about it. So I’m taking the time to remind you. The longest journey beings with a single step. Keep moving forward in the direction of your dreams. (Insert other cliché phrase here). You can get pretty far in six months! Does my Madonna quote kindda go?




The Halo Effect

19 Oct

The idea in psychology/sociology that attractive people are seen as angelic and are therefore stereotyped with having angelic qualities and treated with positive enforcement of these “qualities.”

Studies have shown that attractive people achieve more in life, are generally happier, and have more self-confidence.

Quick Personal Story

About 2 years ago, I was dating this really good looking, smart guy and I really liked him.  And I let him treat me… not so nice.  On July 4th, after not returning multiple phone calls, I was out with my friends downtown, when we ran into each other.  Essentially he broke up with me on a pole outside of Dillon’s (a bar).  With glitter on his face.  Probably from making out with some girl.  His response:  “I was going to break up with you on Monday.”  Devastation.

Fast Forward 9 months.    I run into this boy again.  This time I have just had my lips done.  He kindly bought me drinks all night, and at the end of the night I said thank you, and good bye.

Did he feel bad?  Was it because I was hot?  Who knows, and who cares.  The fact of the matter was, I felt hot.  And confident.  AND best of all, I felt retribution for the way I was treated by this boy less than a year prior.

The Attractiveness Co-Effecient

Did I treat him better because he was good looking?  Probably.  Did he treat me better when I was better looking?  Definitely.  Was there some self-fulfilling prophecy factor involved?  Probably.  But like I said, I feel justified and that’s what counts.  We’re on a semi-friendship level to this day.

Beauty is not always advantageous though.  I have many experience where I’ve been perceived as mean, stupid, materialistic (ok this one is kind of true), and vain.  I have had people question my expertise and my skills in both medicine and business.  It is a difficult experience for me, as I have always excelled academically and am constantly reading and researching topics that inspire me.  I can only take these experience and use them to make me better as a person, and in my field of work.

The Hairdresser Effect

If the Halo Effect is the idea that good looking people are treated differently day to day, I would like to introduce my theory of the Hairdresser Effect.  When you look good, you feel good, and you reflect this confidence to others.  Every woman’s favorite place is the beauty salon.  FACT.  Why?  Because when you leave, you are at the height of feeling attractrive.  My hairdresser is the first person I go to when I’m sad (I would like to credit Lauren Cence, of Sylvestre Franc–thank you for making me the best blonde I can be! … and for all the free therapy sessions).  I aspire to have this effect on people, to bring physical beauty to aide a person to have the confidence to be themselves.  And be HAPPY with who they are.

Bottom Line

The bottom line here, beauty matters.  It effects how we feel about ourselves and how other treat us.  Whether it is self-fulfilling, whether it’s this Halo Effect, whether it’s right or wrong.  It doesn’t matter.  What matters is how YOU feel about yourself.  Striving for physical attractiveness is not a vain endeavor, but an expression of confidence and reflection of inner beauty.  Being attractive will lead you into a happier more successful life.

Symmetry

10 Oct

The Biology of It All…

Among studies across the animal kingdom, the most important characteristic in for mating is symmetry and balance, and thus can be argued the most important “attractive” characteristic for us as well.  Symmetry reveals genetic diversity; the more heterozygous the individual, the more symmetry is noticed in the face.  This is important because of the ability for these individuals to resist disease and withstand environmental factors.

But remember… no face is perfectly symmetrical.

Etiology of Asymmetry (from Wikipedia.com)

Congenital defect

  • Facial hemi-trophy or hypertrophy of superfacial tissue , muscle & bone.
  • Mandibular Condylar hypoplasia due to intrauterine or birth trauma.
  • TMJ Ankylosis, the mandible moves to the affected side.
  • Mandibular body or ramus hyperplasia, the mandible moves to the unaffected side.

Traumatic

Zygomatic process fracture & followed infra orbital depression.

Inflammatory

Abscess – cellulitis – cyst

 Muscular

a- Atrophy of facial musculature following Bell’s palsy.

b- Hyperplasia of masseter muscle in clenching habit.

c- Patients using only one side in chewing

Salivary Glands

Inflammatory as mumps or neoplastic.

Neoplastic

Ameloblatoma – lipoma – osteoma

 
I read articles about dentistry when I was writing this. I started noticing (while watching hockey) how people who have had broken facial bones are less symmetrical and less physically attractive. Or maybe it’s because they don’t shave. Anyways… they at least up the sexy-ness factor through having gorgeous bodies.

 

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